Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Free the Mother, Free the Child

It has come to my awareness that through my assessment of spiritual understandings, I have concluded we could be consoled by acknowledging there are many understandings to the soul’s journey back to wholeness. The average person that does not remember, we choose our families, would debate this issue when it does not reflect their ideal image of family. However, every soul attains spiritual growth through choices. It is not up to the individual to decide what the proper path for another soul’s growth is. How do we as adults protect the children if we do not take charge of the exposure or direction of children in the larger population is the question? With great wisdom, we help the mothers. How do we do that, if they are not ready? We plant the seeds of desire. How do we do that? By assessing the situation, and then figuring out what we can assist with. Is education a concern, transportation, child care, health care, exposure to other options, lifestyle choices, etc…?

There has to be a level of respect for a mother in order to help her children. Sometimes children are removed from an environment for physical, emotional, spiritual and mental protection for the overall growth of the child. It is best to continue assessing the parents’ growth with the intention of the family reuniting after certain goals are met. There is knowledge available in research that proves we are a society that chooses to bear children before we are prepared to nurture children, for all kinds of reasons. The number one reason that we avoid is that with unprotected sex, we will raise the chances of becoming pregnant. The human being has sex for sexual gratification, be it in marriage or otherwise. In a state of maturity humans try to prepare and plan for children. In a state of passion, whereby we tend to be trying to avoid our life decisions for the moment through the heat of passion, normally will create an easily conduit for pregnancy. It is after the moment that leads to many other life-changing decisions.

Having the responsibility for another person's well-being is a huge responsibility that sometimes we realize after the fact, we may not have been ready for and the young ones pay the price. It takes great courage to admit it and greater courage to seek help. That is a humbling experience like no other, because the act itself that got one to this stage of life was usually defiance of rules. Nobody likes rules and structure; however, as we mature, we can assess the protection that comes from rules (boundaries) for our children.

To be allowed freedom at 18 requires huge responsibility that will determine your life's journey. The turns in the road can take you in many different directions. There really aren’t any shortcuts in life that don't come with a high price. There is exposure, adventure and mystery on the shortcuts but in the end we all arrive at the same place, asking ourselves if it was worth the ride. The wisdom we gain from our paths should answer that question. That is why we have to assess our situations to observe how to best assist our self and others on the journey. Where are we, where do we want to be and what is the best route for getting there. My assessment is, when you free, the mother you free, the child. Look into the darkness, and you'll find the light.

To be empowered women I think we have to share reminders of tidbits from recipes of herstories, here are some of my favorites:

"We are not born all at once, but by bits. The body first, and the spirit later," Mary Autin wrote in 1912 in "The Promised Land." Our mothers are racked with the pains of our physical birth; we ourselves suffer the longer pains of our spiritual growth."

Simone de Beauvoir put it another way:"One is not born a woman, one becomes one." This becoming takes time. We need time to consider, time to reflect, time to make creative choices,time to emerge from the cocoon,time to clean out our closets, and time to clear away psycic cobwebs so that we might pare down to our essence.

It is God's will that we be beautiful, that we love and be loved and prosper in all good things, " Marianne Williamson reminds us. "It is God's will that we all become the goddesses we were created to be."

"Beauty is an internal light, a spiritual radiance that all women have but most women hide, unconsciously, denying its existance. What we do not claim remains invisible, "Marianne Williamson, in "A Womens Worth"

I have a ritual whereby I read something positive every morning that reminds me of my "Sacred Feminine". These tidbits were taken from "Simple Abundance, A Daybook of Comfort and Joy" by- Sarah Ban Breathnach

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